THE PRINCIPLE OF "SINCERITY"

The principle of "sincerity" has to do with being open to your spouse about certain things. If you know that there is something which is very important to your spouse and you do not have it and it is not visible for him or her to see, you should inform him or her about it. If you are scared that s/he would not get married to you if s/he knows about that thing, you might end up losing him/her because s/he will discover someday and you will lose your trust in his/her sight.

Transparency is highly important even if you think the other person will leave you for another. Whoever loves you will love you even with your past, and with your mistakes. If someone decides to leave you because of a past occurrence that you also regret, do not be bitter and do not judge them, it just means that they are unable to cope with such past. The truth is that there is someone who will decide to be with you regardless of your past so the fear that one person would leave you is not a sufficient reason to lie or hide the truth. Trust me, someone better than the one you think you will lose (by being sincere) is on the way for you. 

There's a story of a lady who told the man  who had promised to get married to her, that she could not give birth as she had been told by a doctor. He decided to break up with her because children are very important to him and he was not ready to risk his life by getting married to this lady and not being able to have children that he can call his own. When some people heard the reason for which he left her, they blamed the lady seriously. They blamed her for being too open. Her mum was so disappointed and said to her "why did you do such a thing? Why did you allow that man go? I have warned you to learn to close your mouth. You did not have to tell him that the doctors said you won't be able to give birth. No body will get married to you if you continue this way. You have chased all of them away with your big mouth..." 

Ada tried to explain to her mum that she did what she did to save herself and her future from any form of stress. She had heard of marriages that ended up in a divorce because one party lied about something important to the other and she really did not want her case to be like that. However, her mum would not understand. To her mum and other close friends, she really did not have to expose herself or her problem to someone she intends to get married to.

Although it is not the easiest of things to be open about certain things that hurt you but it is very necessary especially for those who have made the decision to or intend to get married to you. What some people fail to understand is that the future of a man's life is not far fetched, it would soon catch up with him/her. Hence the reason you should not hide anything. What you're hiding would be revealed soon so please be sincere and do not take pleasure in hiding anything from your spouse or spouse to be.

When a marriage is built on deception or insincerity, fear becomes inevitable in the life of the other partner because s/he would be unsure as to what else you have lied about or hidden from him/her.

In conclusion, please be as sincere as possible to your spouse. Do not pretend to have or not have what you know is important to him/her. You might lose him/her but it is better to lose now than  to lose in marriage.

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OneLove,

SomzyBrown.