HOW DID I GET HERE???

I AM TIRED!!!

I AM FED UP!!!

I used to be a very happy person. I enjoyed being with my friends and loved ones and everyone always referred to me as "the life of the party". I was always willing to be there for people and I could literally sacrifice anything for anyone. I was full of life and many good things.

But guess what?

I am no longer that person and I know it. Few friends have been bold enough to tell me that I have changed and that something definitely isn't right with me. I know this but I have chosen to ignore. I am not exactly sure how I got here but I really miss me. I miss the happy, joyful, sweet, pleasant and lovely me. I have tried to think back as to what went wrong but I've not really been able to lay my hand on it. 

Oh yes, maybe I remember...

Being the friendly person that I am, I gave my all to people I did not know (I.e. strangers) so you can imagine how I treated those I loved. I loved Jennifer so much but for one reason or the other, things did not work out. I was hurt and broken but later on figured that it was part of life and moved on. A few months after this, I met Mary. 

Mary was so perfect. She was the absolute best and everyone close to me confirmed this. She was indeed an answer to prayers. We had so many things in common and I was so grateful to God for bringing her my way. Mary was an answer to my deep felt prayers. 

We had dated for about a year when Mary fell ill. She fell seriously ill that I got really scared. We went to the hospital and kept being transferred from one hospital to another. We knew this was not normal so we prayed against it and kept confessing her healing.

To be continued...

 

PREVENT IT BEFORE IT BECOMES TOO LATE.

Genotype discussion is a serious one and it should not be taken for granted. It is quite sad that as important as this topic is, many people shy away from it or even underate it. Growing up, my dad gave my siblings and I strict warnings about this. He knew the implications both from personal experience and those of others. 

A lot of people have waited till a time when it was too late to ask about genotype and guess what? The response they got led to premium tears. It had become too late because they had invested so much in the relationship and it was extremely difficult to let go of the guy or the lady. Some as a result of the feelings and emotions already invested, decided to go on with the relationship/wedding because they could not afford to start afresh. 

Some people with AC/AS genotype have gotten married to people with same genotype and have been lucky not to have children with SS or SC but we can't rely on luck cos some children are in serious crisis because of this same decision by their parents. If it can be avoided, if you can prevent a child from wailing and being filled with regret on being brought to this to suffer based on a decision you made which could have been avoided, then please take this issue seriously. 

It's not easy to let go of someone you truly love just because of genotype but genotype incompatibility is a strong enough reason to let go. This is why I would suggest talking about this before you get too deep and start catching feelings. It is important for both parties to be aware of their genotypes and to figure out whether they can continue the friendship, start the relationship or stop right there.

Thanks for stopping by and I really hope you've learned a thing or two. God bless you and have a blessed week. 

OneLove,

SomzyBrown 

MY GENOTYPE IS NOT YOUR BUSINESS!

Bunmi and George met through a mutual friend and George was really interested in getting into a relationship with Bunmi. Before he was introduced to Bunmi, George was in a relationship with Michelle. He loved her so much and had plans to get married to her. However,  just before he made his marriage plans known to Michelle, he figured out that she had a genotype that was incompatible with his. 

This discovery was so painful that he could not get over it for more than a year. It affected him terribly and so he vowed that such would never occur again. Based on George's past experience (Michelle), He did not want to get emotionally attached to Bunmi before discovering whether they were compatible genotype wise and so he brought up the question during one of their discussions.

Bunmi got really upset about this and George  could not understand why it was a big deal. "Would you rather we get into each other only to discover that we are not compatible genotype wise?" George asked. "Well no, but I just don't think it is the right time to ask..." replied Bunmi.

"I am sorry Bunmi but I don't intend to waste your time and the sooner I am sure that genotype would not be a hindrance to us getting married,  the better for me..." Said George

Many people have expressed different concerns about the issue of Genotype. While some think it is not an issue to be discussed immediately you meet someone, others think it is better to get that sorted right away before you 'catch' feelings (I.e. get emotionally attached) and realise that you cannot be with the person you really want to be with.

What's your idea or opinion on genotype? Is it a question that should be asked before you start a relationship at all? Is it too sensitive an issue and as such a no go area? Should people wait till a certain time in their relationship before they talk about it or trash it right at the beginning? 

Please we will appreciate your thoughts and comments on this.

Thank you so much for stopping by.  God bless you. Have a fantastic week.

OneLove,

SomzyBrown