Are you at a stage in your life where you're hoping and praying for Mr/Mrs Right to show up? I join you in this desire and I pray that he/she shows up soonest. However, what should you do before that time pops up? Firstly, before you meet Mr/Mrs Right, you must ensure that you are RIGHT yourself. This does not mean that you must be perfect, it just means that you are in a position where you can confidently be referred to as a wife or husband material. Remember that to attract the right person, someone with certain qualities, you must have those qualities yourself.
Our writer today has the following advice and recommendations for us:
1). Know your identity: Who you are matters because without you discovering yourself you will have low self-esteem. It is funny to say this because it is so obvious, but you must know the details about you. When the purpose of a thing is unknown, abuse is inevitable. You must know - “Where you are”, “Where you are going”, “What you desire”, “What makes you tick”, “What keeps you motivated”, “What stirs up holy anger in you”, “What makes you very emotional”. You don’t need someone to ask you these questions before knowing the answers. If you don’t know who you are, you cannot know who you are compatible with. Generally, people do not misbehave or exhibit wrong habits until they are pushed to do so. So you must know yourself first so you can recognize your preferred match.
2). Build and Equip yourself: After realizing who you are, you should then work on yourself. Keep your good manners and change the bad habits. You know there are some people who everyone calls ‘wife material’ and ‘husband material’. The reason is because they portray so many good characters that just makes them seem lovable. It is not about beauty or outward appearance alone, being ‘Right’ could also mean being polite, caring, interesting, generous, useful, etc. We should all work towards being Right because that is who you will attract. In relationships, it is very rare to find a nasty woman with a gentle man or a troublesome boy with an easy-going girl. Your character will attract your true peer.
Some examples of building your character are:
Spoken words – Learn how to talk wholesomely to people and how to speak in public places.
Wise actions – This is the most sensitive part of life. Improve on your tolerance level, anger management, patience.
Career – Work on building your career. You don’t need to have a job before you have a career. Even if you are unemployed, you should employ yourself for free. Ladies, please note that many men are more attracted to busy ladies. There are a lot of things that you can do to build your career even when you are not currently working anywhere, merely looking for a job is a job and researching about your ambitions and goals is a job also. Stay busy, get out of your comfort zone and you stand the chance of meeting more responsible people.
Generosity – Be generous, not only in relation to money but also in kind. A kind gesture makes you lovable. Just being generous with your courtesy could qualify you as a wife or husband material.
* For males, you should know by now that you will be the driver of the relationship/marriage. You need to be more equipped. For instance, when it comes to finances, you're expected to be more independent than the lady; you should be more enlightened so you can teach her; you should also be a motivator who would stir her to do great things.
*For females, learn how to do the domestic duties (it doesn’t mean it’s your job alone, anyone can do it). Get busy with your career life, live a balanced life, men nowadays don’t want to get married to ladies that will become a liability to them. Be versatile because this makes you earn more respect.
*Be yourself at all times, let him or her love you for who you are not who you hope to be because you may never be that. There’s no need to try to impress anyone by faking the real you because in no time, you will show your true colour. The Yorubas say ‘Character is like Smoke’, trying hard to be perfect against who you truly are makes you unreal and makes people wary of you.
Finally, don’t get too tired of waiting for your Mr/Mrs Right that you settle for second best. Be very convinced before you ask her out or before you say yes to him. Don’t let the sugarcoated words of the men or the pretty-looking ladies confuse your choice-making, but rather, be convinced by discovering the heart that truly matches yours!
Folakemi Oshokoya
Thank you so much for stopping by and we hope to see you here again. God bless you and keep staying safe.
OneLove,
SomzyBrown.
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