WHY I HAD TO FINALLY LET MEN GO.

Tega and Oluchi met at a Tutorial centre for ICAN in Port Harcourt. He liked Oluchi because of her friendly nature and the fact that she was a smart lady also attracted her to him. Tega was a good guy and Oluchi was a lovely lady. The two began their friendship and it was fun because they both had a lot in common. They spent a lot of time studying together and from this activity, discovered more about themselves. Oluchi was a nice, friendly and playful lady. She had a lot of male friends and Tega had just been added to the list. 

Although Oluchi was a sweet and nice lady, her actions had been misinterpreted times without number. In fact her mum had once warned her about her 'too friendly nature' "Nne, be careful how you show this your friendly nature to men abeg! You know how they think so biko don't pass across the wrong message... Remember what Mama Obinna said? Please I don't want trouble" "Mama, you know as well as I do that I am always careful especially when it comes to guys or men. You also know that Mama Obinna just wanted to tarnish my image...But I have heard you Mama, I will be more careful" 

Oluchi had no idea on how to reduce the way she cared and showed love because it was just in her nature to do so. She understood perfectly what her mum meant but she was not sure of how to go about it. Obinna's mum had told her mum that Oluchi was always trying to force herself on her son and that she did not like it. Oluchi was surprised to hear it as she thought that her friendship with Obinna was very clear. This statement by Mama Obinna and the reminder her mum gave really affected her. She then decided to stop talking to guys and the idea of having close male friends was thrown into the gutters because she was scared of them saying that she was leading them on or that she wanted something extra from them.

The attempt at taking this step was extremely hard for Oluchi and she kept feeling bad because a part of her was about to be taken away all in the name of not giving a wrong impression. The truth is that Oluchi preferred guys to ladies because she just felt that ladies had too much trouble. Where was she going to start from? And was she sure that she wouldn't keep getting these misinterpretations from men? It was indeed a hard step to take. It was during this attempt to stay away from men that she met Tega. "Tega seems different and I just hope that he would not misinterpret my actions like others have done" She said to herself.

To be continued...

Thanks a lot for stopping by and we hope to see you next week by God's grace. Please keep staying safe and I know that this phase would come to an end very soon in Jesus name, Amen.

OneLove,

SomzyBrown.