HOW CAN I LOVE YOU BETTER??

We had a series on love languages some weeks ago and many people who have been unable to read the book (as well as those who have read the book) found it very insightful. I would like to use this opportunity to say a big thank you to everyone who checked it out and dropped kind comments. Please, if you haven't read them, you really should as they would open your eyes to a lot that you might not know about your partner. 

Just incase you're wondering why this is coming up again - I have brought up this topic today because I had a discussion with a friend whose husband is very caring and loving. We (myself and another friend) feel that he does 'too' much (by too much we just mean he is trying so much as a husband...). However, it is funny that this lady friend does not see it that way. According to her, "He is nice and does all these nice things like cook for me, clean the house etc. But these things don't move me..." We expressed so much shock at her reaction but then this brought my thoughts back to this fact:

You can be the nicest person in the world but if you're doing things outside the core love language of your spouse, they might not make a difference to him/her. As said in one of the series, there is a tendency to render acts that are important to you to your spouse. For example, if you love to receive gifts, you will find it easy to give gifts and because it comes naturally to you, you tend to give gifts to your spouse. But if your spouse's love language is acts of service, your gifts might not mean so much to him or her. So you will need to work on rendering acts of service to him/her (I.e. the love language that is important to him/her).

Why are we going back to this? My conversation with this friend just showed how ignorant so many people are on the topic of love languages. If you do not take anything away from today's write-up please take away the fact that your spouse's primary love language could be different from yours. If it is different from yours, then you need to learn his/her love language. After learning it, you should speak your spouse's language to him/her. Speaking your own love language (if your spouse does not have the same love language as you do) is not ideal and you might not get the appreciation that you expect. In fact, it might make your relationship or marriage become stagnant as neither yours or the other person's love tank is full despite the efforts. If you are clueless as to how to go about this, there is no crime in asking your spouse for what makes him/her feel loved. It is better to do this than to waste time doing something that means nothing to him/her.

Is this for married people only? No it's not. This is for everyone whether you're currently in a relationship or not. We all need to learn these things as it would help in our relationships with people that are dare to our hearts. 

Thanks a lot for stopping by. God bless you and have a wonderful week.

OneLove,

SomzyBrown