"BABE, WE CAN TALK THINGS THROUGH PLEASE..."

Bayo and Nike have been married for 2 years and although they are an adorable couple, they have had to deal with a lot of issues. One major issue that the beautiful couple had was based on a misunderstanding that Nike did not respect Bayo and that Bayo did not love Nike. This issue came up in different forms, shapes and sizes and on one of the occasions Bayo said something that really broke Nike's heart.

They had a heated argument and because of pride or let's still call it lack of understanding, no one wanted to be the first to apologise. Bayo felt Nike was the one who was wrong and should apologise and Nike also felt Bayo was at fault. No one was willing to be a fool and so this fight went on for 3 days. They were living in the same house but not saying a single word to each other. Nike couldn't handle it anymore and sent a message to her darling husband on the 3rd day saying, "Please let's talk about this when you get home. I'm not comfortable with the silence between us". Bayo got home and listened to what Nike had to say. While he was trying to explain how he felt, he said "...I've had to ask myself if I married the wrong person..."

The statement made by Bayo was really heart breaking and she really couldn't believe that her husband would say such because they had issues. She didn't like the way he was treating her but she never thought she missed it maritally. She knew that marriage required a lot of patience and understanding and so although the fights and turmoils were discouraging, she had no cause to think that Bayo was the wrong husband for her.

The truth is that in marriage or a relationship, there will always be one issue or the other which should be sorted out but it is not right to say or think that the fact that a couple is having issues means that they married wrongly or the marriage should come to an end. I listened to a relationship personnel recently and she talked about how some people think conflict isn't something that should happen when you're in love. She spoke about the fact that her husband and herself had a lot of issues to the extent that he said "I hate you..." She stated that conflict is normal and should be part of a relationship or marriage. 

You can watch here: https://www.instagram.com/tv/Byfq3c3Fxgm/?igshid=1ru2hetqqjife

You might have issues that will move you to tears but it is not enough reason to think that you married wrongly or that you made a mistake choosing your life partner or being in that relationship. So if you find yourself having isues with your spouse, your first thought or thought at all shouldn't be that you made a mistake. Rather, find a way to resolve it. Conflict is normal but resolving it is key. 

Thanks a lot for stopping by and we look forward to seeing you next week. 

OneLove,

SomzyBrown