WHEN ALL SIGNALS SAY LEAVE BUT...2

Sandra waited for about two (2) months giving Michael sufficient time to sort out whatever issues he had to sort out. Well, so she thought. But did Michael ever come out of this awkward behaviour towards Sandra? Your guess is as good as mine. NO!

"Two months is sufficient time for someone to sort out whatever issues they have." Sandra thought. But this was not sufficient for Michael or he just couldn't be bothered. "Should I stay with him and endure the silent treatment for another week/month or should I just take Michael's advice and move on with my life?" She asked. NO!!!!

Why would Sandra think of that? Stay and endure what? Hmmm let me be calm on this matter but really staying with someone that OBVIOUSLY doesn't want you is not the best thing to do. Let me allow you think about this. Take a moment to think about Sandra and Michael's story before you continue reading. 

Now, what do you think is the best thing to do? If you are in a relationship with someone and the person all of a sudden changes his/her attitude towards you (I.e. it is obvious that things have changed and you don't relate as you would normally), what should you do? Furthermore, you have tried to make things work but the other person just doesn't seem to care and is not interested in you. What do you do? 

I asked a few people the above question and they gave very similar responses. The responses I got were: "LEAVE" "You have no business remaining in the relationship"; "Call it quit immediately"

The truth is that you and everyone around you deserves to be treated right in a relationship. No one deserves to be treated like crap or like someone who cannot function without the relationship. You need to know when ENOUGH IS ENOUGH. Why should you be giving me silent treatments? Why should it be okay to ignore me? Why should you begin to treat me like trash? If you do all these then it means you do not deserve me and I do not deserve to be in the relationship with you.

See what Sandra did, she began to blame herself for the actions of someone who clearly didn't value her. This is what many people do and it's not right. You do not need this at all. You need to be able to tell yourself the truth but not to blame yourself for someone else's decision not to be with you (directly or indirectly). Take the lessons learnt but please move on from that relationship.

Please note that if you're married, it's a different ball game except the situation is life threatening. However, if you are not yet married to this person, you are at liberty to run for your life and you really should run. 

Thank you so much for stopping by. We hope you have learnt a thing or two from this post as well as the last one. We look forward to seeing you next week by God's grace.

OneLove,

SomzyBrown