I DON'T HAVE TO BE LIKE YOU...

Comparison is something that affects a lot of people and we live in a generation where people literally think they have to be like someone else to be great. We get caught up in things that do not really matter and then we get ourselves into trouble by placing unrealistic demands on ourselves not because we really want to achieve a particular thing but because we just want to be like someone else.

Someone wrote an article which I am sharing with us in this post. As we read, please get the point and let it be a turn around for those of us who consciously or unconsciously compare ourselves to our peers or people higher than us. I have added a few words to the article but enjoy:

In January, Omotola Jalade shared on her instagram page that she was grateful that at 40, her last child is already in the University. Remember she has four kids and she got married quite early. Funke Akindele (Jenifa) congratulated her on the post. Funke is 41, and just had her first babies in December of last year.

Now, if you try to compare these two women, you would fail at it because they are both accomplished. Will you say Funke is unfortunate for just having her first babies at 41 while Omotola's last child is already in the University? They have different unidentical lives but they are both fulfilled. 

My point is - Stop comparing yourself with others! Your life journey is not the same with anyone, irrespective of societal expectations. Not everyone will get married in their twenties, not every couple will have a baby nine months into marriage, not everyone will become a millionaire in their thirties, some people will get their dream jobs at 40, it doesn't mean that they have failed. Some will become CEOs at 55 but this does not in anyway equate failure.

Please learn to focus on your life. I know it's a difficult thing to do in this era of social media where everyone seems to be doing well in life except you. Don't compare your life journey with others, not even your classmates. There are only CLASSMATES, they are no LIFEMATES in this life. You are your only mate in life. 

Let me also add in relation to social media, that people only put up the best part of their lives on social media. When a couple is having serious fights, they will not put it on social media...When a company is going through serious financial challenges, they would not advertise their problem on social media...When that friend who just got a car had to steal to get it, he or she would not make this announcement on social media. You only see what people want you to see so comparing yourself to another or others is not ideal. Be yourself! You can be great but you don't have to do it because your friend has done it.

Whenever you're tempted to compare yourself with others (which makes you feel pressured and sad), come back to this post and digest every word. So you better save it, because I will too.

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Olubunmi Mabel

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