HE DECIDED TO BREAK UP WITH ME.

(Bimpe and Dara have been friends for a while. They met at a conference where they realised they had similar beliefs and ideas of life)

(Visiting each other was a constant event and on this day, Bimpe paid a visit to Dara)

Bimpe: Babe whatsup with you? How are things going? I have missed your little head.
Dara: I have missed you too my darling friend. Things are going well thank God.
Bimpe: Are you sure you're fine? Why are you looking so 'morosky'?

Dara: Hmmmm my dear, I have a lot on my mind but I will be fine.

Bimpe: Oh dear. Pele (Sorry). Do you want to talk? You don't have to if you don't want to but please know that I will always be here for you.

Dara: Bimpe thanks for being a wonderful friend to me and a shoulder to lean on. This one is a tough one and hopefully I will be able to share it with you some day. Anyway, let's talk about you. How is preparation for your professional exam coming up?

Bimpe: It's going well thank God. I just can't wait to be done and have my life back.

Dara: Awww, I know that feeling. Don't worry,  it would go well and you will have great results by God's grace.

Bimpe: Amen o!! Thanks darling 

(They both talk about different things until Bimpe leaves Dara's house)

(Two weeks later)

Dara: (puts a call across to Bimpe) Babe, please are you at home? I need to discuss something with you. I am getting really frustrated and I don't think I can handle this by myself anymore.

Bimpe: Yes, I am home all through the day. Please be fine and I will be expecting you.

(Dara knocks on the door and Bimpe leads her into her house)

Bimpe: Dara you said you wanted to talk. Is everything okay?

Dara: I really wish everything was okay o. It's about your friend and I. Tunde is putting me in a tight corner and I don't understand him anymore. 

Bimpe: Okay...what exactly is going on?

Dara: He is threatening to break up with me o. As in, it is so unbelievable.

Bimpe: Ah! Are you kidding me? Why would he do that? Didn't he say he was sure he wanted to spend the rest of his life with you and even begged me to talk to you to say yes to him? (Men are funny sha o, Bimpe muttered under her breath).

Dara: That's the exact thing I thought about when he told me that he wasn't sure he could continue the relationship with me. How will you be sure one moment that you want to spend the rest of your life with someone and the next moment, you're threatening to break up. I am really upset and frustrated and I don't even know what to do.

Bimpe: That's really sad, sorry dear. Did he at least tell you why he is considering breaking up with you?

Dara: Yes he did but I feel really ashamed to say it to anyone. 

Bimpe: Oh really what did he say is the reason? 

Dara: I will tell you but make sure you keep this between us and please do not allow this affect your relationship with him or how you view him.

Bimpe: You can trust me to keep this between us, Dara. We've come too far not to keep our secrets safe.

Dara: For a while now, Tunde has tried to have sex with me and that's one of the reasons I stopped going to his house. I have reminded him each time he brings it up or does something, of my position about it but he all of a sudden doesn't think it is wrong. It is quite funny because when we started dating, we talked about this and we shared scriptures on why we cannot engage in pre-martial sex. He even took time to explain some verses that I did not fully understand on this matter. I don't know what has come over him! He has allowed the flesh take over and he doesn't seem to have any control anymore. I have tried reminding him about God's word and the fact that he knows that it is wrong but Tunde would not listen. I don't want to break up with him because I really love him but I cannot afford to compromise on this. 

Bimpe: (sighs) I understand how you feel and I know it's hard but you have to do what is right. I know you love Tunde and I know Tunde loves you too but this pre-marital sex thing is a serious issue and I would not advice you to stay in the relationship if you have to compromise on this. You've stayed pure so far, you shouldn't allow anyone make you change your mind. If he would leave you because of this, then let him leave. It will hurt you but you will get over it at last and the person who respects your views and shares the same with you would come.

Dara: My dear, I know but it's really hard. This has been going on for a while and I actually almost gave in but thank God for the grace He gave me to stand my ground. I mean, on this day, I went to visit him as usual. We started playing and one thing led to another. Before I knew it, Tunde had taken off his clothes and had cajoled me into taking mine off as well. I did but as soon as we got on the bed, it was like an alarm started ringing in my ears and I suddenly got up, reached for my clothes, wore them and began to run. Tunde was begging me to stay because it was late but I knew it was a trap, so I didn't care what time I was going to get home. I ran! I am not judging Tunde but I cannot afford to do this. He called me the next day and told me never to come to his house blaming me for depriving him of the one thing that is important to him. I have been trying to call him since then but his phone has been ringing unanswered.

Bimpe: I know this must have been very tough but thank God you did not fall. You made the right choice Dara, please do not feel bad because it is a choice that you will never regret. I have been in your  shoes before so I can understand how you feel. Let's get something to eat and I'ld share my story with you. It is one that I have kept to myself for long.

(Bimpe and Dara go to the kitchen to make food)

To be continued...

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