Tunmi and Aisha are in a serious relationship. Before we go on let me ask this question - What comes to your mind when you hear serious relationship? Well, serious relationship in my opinion means that they are not playing around but intend to get married to each other. So no side chicks or side bobos (smiles). Anyway they have been having conversations around marriage so yeah they are in a serious relationship.
Like every relationship, they sometimes have issues and on one or two occasions, these issues are serious. Please let me just drop this here - don't ever believe anyone that says they don't have issues in their relationship or marriage. This is a big fat lie because there is no relationship without issues. It's just that people undergo different issues and you might not find two relationships going through the same kind of issues.
Whenever they have serious issues that they believe is too much for them to handle, Aisha runs to their Mentor to talk about the issue. She tells her in confidence and so most times it stays between them but other times, Aisha wants the matter resolved so she involves her Mentor's husband and they both have a conversation with Tunmi and Aisha. These talks and advices have helped their relationship and made them understand or address issues better. The conversations have also made their relationship stronger according to them. However, there's a problem...
Tunmi does not have an issue with Aisha talking to the Odekos (their mentors). He actually appreciates the role that they have played in his life and that of Aisha individually and collectively. They've been very instrumental to their relationship and he is grateful for that but he was having a discussion with some of his friends recently about how it is not adviceable to involve third parties in your relationship. In their opinion, it is okay to have Mentors who can advice you but you shouldn't take your issues to them.
Tunmi who was previously fine with Aisha talking to the Odekos, complains about it now and she's confused. He says he doesn't appreciate the fact that she talks to them about their issues and she's not sure where this is coming from. She's a bit concerned.
To be continued...
What do you think guys? It's okay to have Mentors right? Do we all agree with this fact? Should we involve them in our relationship? If we do, how involved should they be in our relationship or marriage?
Thanks for stopping by. Please let us know your thoughts. God bless you
OneLove,
SomzyBrown
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