YOU CAN'T ERASE PROBLEMS...

How many of us believe that getting married to the right one for us is key? Hmmmm... yeah, I surely do as well. 

How many of us believe that because we prayed, fasted and even saw a vision/had a dream that this is the man or woman to get married to, all will be smooth, clean and safe? Erm...

Let me burst your bubbles. I believe in getting it right because this in itself saves you from a lot of problems but does getting it right mean that there won't be issues? Far from it! There will be issues but it depends on how you decide to manage it.  

One resolution that you must make with your spouse or fiance is that no matter what happens, you guys will work it out. I remember a particular couple and they were asked what the other person could do which would make the offendee seek a divorce, the man said nothing and so did the woman. Obviously there are certain cases or situations that may require you to be apart from your spouse but this shouldn't be the first thing that comes to your mind when an issue occurs.

Please do not join the group of people that already go into marriage with a 'divorce mentality'. If you do, you will call for it even  at the slightest issue.

Let me tell you something - I know of someone who at certain times would put up her husband's picture even when theye've just had a quarrel. After enquires, she said she does this to constantly remind herself not to celebrate him only when things are good but even when they are having a hard time understanding each other. Someone else might see this and say "Awww they are so cute. I doubt if they ever have any issues". They do! Yes, they do! Please do not be deceived by all the glam. But the good thing is that they care about each other and they look for ways to settle their issues amicably.

Back to the point I raised earlier, there will always be issues and you must be willing to settle such issues. These issues occur because you are from separate backgrounds, have different histories and were brought up by different parents and in different ways. Even siblings quarrel despite the fact that they were brought up by the same parents, not to talk of someone else. 

Irrespective of where or how you got your wife or husband, be it on the mountain, in the sea, after 40 days fasting, there will be misunderstandings but as we said earlier you must make up your mind to resolve these issues except they are life threatening problems. You cannot erase problems but you can make efforts to settle issues amicably.

Thanks for stopping by, we hope to see you next week.

OneLove,

SomzyBrown