Julie had struggled with self esteem for a while and finally decided to get into a relationship with James because she thought it would be good for someone like her ("ugly" in her words) to be with a handsome and good looking man. She relied so much on James for compliments and good talks and when they were not forthcoming she felt terrible. She hung in there despite her unhappiness.
James on the other hand got into this relationship not out of love but because he didn't want to disappoint Julie. She had thrown herself around him so much that he was forced to be in the relationship with her. In his words "I am just managing her..."
We all (yes every single person) have an area in our body/life that we are uncomfortable with or that needs a change but guess what? Some people have found a way around it and made it their strong point and instead of allowing that make them make wrong relationship choices, they believe in themselves and believe the right person would love them for who they are.
If it's an area that you can change, not by surgery or any 'strange' act, maybe a behavioral pattern that is bad or a character flaw or by engaging in exercises, then please go ahead but if it's not something within your power, embrace it and love yourself like no one can.
Getting into a relationship is good and desirable but getting into it as a confident person and a person that believes in him/herself is more desirable. We need to stop relying on people to complement us (even though the feeling is good)! We need to first believe in ourselves and take time to complement ourselves - Such that even when we do not receive any complements, we are fine and can rest in that assurance.
I really hope you've learnt one or two things. Thanks a bunch for stopping by and we hope to see you next week. God bless you and have a blessed week.
OneLove,
SomzyBrown
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