Red flags are issues or situations in a relationship that require immediate attention and should not be overlooked. While some people are quick to recognise what is right or wrong in their relationship or with the person they are in a relationship with, some others are slow to recognise such things. Today, I'll be sharing some tips shared by a Sister (Mosopefoluwa Benson) on Recognizing Red Flags and I really hope that you learn a thing or two from it.
Recognizing a red flag is very key because it helps you decide or know when to get out of a relationship. In order to be able to spot these red flags, three things must happen:
- You must have a ear to hear. Even Jesus said that some listen to the message but they can’t hear because of their religious hearts, so they go to church, engage in all sorts but do not 'hear' anything. You have to be sure about what God is saying about that relationship you're in and you must be willing to act.
- You must have Eyes to see. There are some people who go around with a covering on their face, they go into blind dates, blind friendships, blind marriage and they just cannot or do not see anything about themselves or their partners. But we are in a time where we can't afford to have our eyes covered, we've got to wake up and see what is happening so as to address the mess we may be in.
- A heart to receive. Your heart needs to be flexible and mold-able to detect a red flag - not a rocky heart that is not willing to receive. In other words, if your heart is rocky (i.e. you're strong hearted), you can’t learn anything, you will always have everything figured out, and we see a lot of these in counselling. People get into trouble because they have a stony heart and the only thing that can soften their heart is the word of God.
Having established the abilities you need to successfully spot a red flag, the following are RED FLAGS to take note of:
- They (the person you're in a relationship with) act really embarrassed in public when they are around you. So you hear things like "lets just keep it secret", "I am not going to post you on any of my social media pages, not even on my WhatsApp status", "let's not tell anyone we are dating, it is just between you and I"… and this goes on for a very long time. They won't tell anyone about you but you are eager to tell everyone about them and they keep saying you should keep it secret. This is a red flag!
- S/he treats you in an extra sweet manner but treats every other person differently. So he slapped the waiter because of you, she insulted the taxi man because of you, he insulted his mum because of you, he punched the laundry man because of you… guess what he will punch you in two years time. S/he is so sweet to you but watch out for how he or she treats everyone else besides you.
To be continued...
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OneLove,
SomzyBrown.
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