DON'T GIVE ME FLOWERS!!

Guys! We are one week and a few days to one of the most celebrated days in the year, isn't that exciting? Some of you might be saying "Why should I be excited when I am not even sure of receiving any gift?". My first advice is that you should be hopeful because one secret admirer somewhere (if you are the kind of person that accepts such gifts) might decide to send something to you. My second advice is that you make it a point of duty to send a gift to someone. It is good to receive but it is more pleasant to give.

Anyway, let's get down to the topic for today.  In the spirit of the upcoming VALS day, a lot of questions,  memes and the likes have been coming up. Many people have asked this question: Is it wrong to ask your partner for what kind of gift he or she wants for Vals?

To be honest, surprises are good if you are sure you know the major needs and 'likes' of your spouse. If you give him or her something really expensive but not needed, s/he might say thank you for it but would have preferred if his or her need was met. Sometimes (and its not impossible) you might not know the exact need of your spouse and in order not to give him/ her the wrong thing which s/he might accept but not be thankful for, I do not think it is wrong to ask for what he or she wants. I believe that spending valuable time with your partner would in one way or the other reveal the needs and 'likes' of your spouse. Even if you're not sure of your partner's needs at the moment, you should at least have an idea on the 'likes' - the things that he or she would appreciate.

In the picture above, the lady received flowers and beat the flower giver with the flowers saying "I said it is wig I want and not flowers". I mean if the man had asked for what she wanted it would have saved him the beating and he would have gotten her the wig. The most important lesson to learn from this is that is highly necessary to know what your spouse wants and/or likes and to give him or her what would be appreciated.

What if you can't afford what your partner wants?  - well I believe that partners should be sensitive and know the capabilities of their partners. But just in case he or she thinks you can afford what you really cannot afford then you can stylishly ask for a list of things needed and supply according to your sincere capability.

I know that there are some people that don't believe in celebrating Feb 14 because they feel love should be celebrated everyday and not just on a particular day. Everyone has a right to their thoughts and beliefs and that's perfectly fine. However, the above does not apply only to preparation for vals, it applies to birthdays, anniversarys and just general gift giving days.

We hope that you learnt one or two things from this. Thanks a lot for stopping by. 

OneLove,

SomzyBrown