When you are hurting, there is a tendency to want to do something stupid or crazy due to the fact that there is so much pain within. The truth however is that you are the one who knows the values that you have and you know when you are beginning to gradually walk away from them. The fact that you experienced a terrible break up or heart break is not sufficient enough reason to make you change your values or principles. You might feel really hurt and low but you are who you think you are and not what others think you are. I will always say that if those ‘principles’ are too rigid or are not good – you can change them but if they are good, you need not allow anyone or any circumstance make you change them. Do not compromise your great and admirable standards because you feel it affected your previous relationship. If they are good/great, keep them! Someone who will value those standards will definitely come your way.
For those who give up on love, I would advice you not to. True love really does exist and I pray you find one. Do not let the different situations that have occurred or your break-up story stop you from ever getting into a relationship again. The fact that she cheated on you does not mean that every other woman out there will cheat on you. That he physically abused you does not also mean that every man out there will physically or emotionally abuse you. No matter what he or she did to you, there is someone out there who will treat you better. Although all of these are true, you also need to be prayerful and very careful. Do not just be moved by his or her outward appearance or outward character, the inner part of a human being is more important, so be wise!
Last but not the least – Prayer is key. The best way to release and forgive and move on in life, is to pray for that person that jilted you or that hurt you. Pray the same prayer that you desire for yourself for that person and trust me, you will be surprised at how quickly, you will heal. This works like magic, it has worked for many people including myself so please give it a trial. It might be very difficult to do this at first but with time it will become easier and seamless.
Conclusively – RE- EVALUATE – think of the things that you might have done wrong, the bad behavior or character that you need to change (i.e. how do you want your spouse and children to meet you?). Develop yourself – work on those things and get better at what you thought was good; read books; attend seminars; learn from people’s mistakes, make the decision to move on. Do not allow a breakup or heart break make you do crazy things or get you insane, no person is worth you killing yourself over. Please do not allow vulnerability lead you to making a mistake, do not get too attached to someone especially when you are still hurting because for all you care, at that point all you will see is love and care and you might not take note of more important things. Do not be blind! Do not make a decision in a rush!
It is my sincere prayer that you will overcome this hurtful feeling as soon as possible in Jesus name.
Thank you so much for staying with us all through this series, we appreciate you.
OneLove,
Somzybrown
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