Jude was having a conversation with some of his friends and he told them about the kind of woman he wants to get married to " a woman that is God-fearing; Smart, can have intelligent conversations, is sexy etc. His friends cheered him up by saying "na correct guy you be..."
However, the question that came to my mind when he said all these was "Are you God-fearing? Can you have intelligent conversations? Are you smart? Are you attractive? Are you all of these things that you really desire in a woman?"
Many times it is easy for us to say this is what I want or desire in a man/woman that we want to get into a relationship with or get married to but we are not willing to take time to work on ourselves to be what we desire in somebody else. What this means is that many of us keep placing expectations on people that we ourselves cannot meet.
No human should be the same person at every given time. Some of us have the attitude of "I can't change, this is who I am" but what if you meet someone who is like that as well? Will you complain that the person has areas of his/her life to work on? If you expect something from others, you should ensure that you match that expectation or even surpass it.
It is very acceptable to have an ideal woman/man but make sure you're also all of that and even more.
You want a woman that is very spiritual but are you? Are you taking steps to get close to God and walk closely with Him?
You want a man that is financially capable but are you in any degree financially okay? Or do you just want to be a liability on him?
You want your spouse or expect that your spouse would have changed in certain areas but have you changed? Or do you assume that you are all perfect and there's no need to change certain characters or habits?
I hope we all are able to see that life is much easier when we are able to tolerate people. When you realize that you're not perfect and that you're a work-in-progress, you realize others are also work-in-progress. This is not a licence to settle for less in marriage or to say that anything and anyone is acceptable. No!
The point is that as you desire to be with someone who is all cute, handsome, has 6 packs... you're also working on yourself and ensuring that you're beautiful, fit, smart etc. You should develop yourself and make changes where there needs to be one.
Whether you're single or married, we all need to intentionally work on ourselves and be better versions of ourselves daily.
Thanks for stopping by. God bless you.
OneLove,
SomzyBrown
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