It's so good to have you here, yes YOU! Thank you for always checking out our blog, we appreciate you. We're still talking about the importance of spotting red flags and why sometimes, you might need to break off that relationship especially if the person in question is unwilling to change so please stay tuned till the end. Thank you.
8. They are still in touch or holding on to stuff from their ex; they still hold on to the messages and emails in the inbox and still entertain these thoughts and feelings like its a memorial. There needs to be a conversation between you both about this. Something hasn’t been dealt with in his/her past, and that isn’t healthy for your relationship or marital life.
9. They have a warped view about God, the bible and the church: I know of someone who dated a guy who joked about the church and the Holy Spirit which was very important to her. They had opposite doctrines which affected their relationship, and she was quick to decide what she wanted and now they are no longer together. Friends, you are not a missionary and the marriage isn’t a mission field, be careful. People like that always make fun of men of God, infact church is always boring to them. Heads up!
And If you are already married to them, love them and continue to show them the love of God, through your character. This might not be very easy but God will give you the strength needed.
So what do I do after spotting these signals?
1. Be Stuck with YOU: Get stuck with that wo/man in the mirror, instead of looking at the other person in the relationship, after all its your life.
2. Stop blaming the other person just like we blame Delilah. Ask yourself, could there be some sort of issue I have that makes me attracted to this person? Or could it be that their red flag(s) is connected to yours?
3. Address the mess: When you have discovered that there is smoke, please don’t wait for the fire. Deal with it and don’t pretend that everything is fine or that there is no problem. Something is wrong and it must be fixed!
4. Get rooted in God and His house: Be faithful in God's house, get committed, develop consistency in serving God.
5. Get wisdom from God's word, godly mentors, get someone who is a little older than you, get godly wisdom from them, read books and develop yourself.
6. Set boundaries so as to avoid the same mistakes in your next relationship and for the person you are currently in a relationship with.
7. Start serving: Help people, volunteer, get involved, be generous
In all Pray! Pray! Pray! There lies your sensitivity!
Mosope Benson
Thank so much for walking through this topic with us for the past few weeks. I hope that you have in one way or the other, learnt how to spot red flags and what steps to take after you have spotted these red flags. It is my prayer that God would help you and open your eyes to see all that you need to see so that you do not get into the wrong relationships and when you find yourself in one, you will be able to put an end to it.
OneLove,
SomzyBrown.
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