COMPATIBILITY IS KEY!

Some time ago, a write-up was shared on a group that I am part of and I found it interesting and educative. Although majority of the write-up is from an author unknown to me, I have added a few things to it. The writeup is titled: "6 MATES YOU MUST MARRY".

One of the ways your marriage will not add to the rate of divorce in our world today is if you get married to your mate. However, if you are married already, in order to avoid being a contributor to the divorce rate in the world, you must make your spouse your mate!

You see this statement 'Am I your mate?' does not apply in marriage. You must marry your mate. The different dimensions that you and the person you want to marry or you are married to must be mates on are as follows:

MARRY YOUR SPEAKING MATE: Get married to someone  you can speak to, someone you can understand and that can understand you. Communication is very crucial in marriage and it is the bedrock of any marriage. It is not adviceable to get married to someone that is not on the same page with you such that when you are referring to 'A' he or she will be referring to 'Z'. It is also not adviceable to get married to someone that makes you afraid and scared to express yourself. Once there is a dichotomy in your speaking and understanding level, you may not enjoy that marriage. So many men go to the bar to hang out with friends and gist till 11pm because they know their wives cannot engage in any meaningful or intellectual discussion. So many women also prefer to hang out with their friends, because they know their husbands' mentality when it comes to vital issues and discussions is very low. Get married to your speaking Mate!

MARRY YOUR SCHOOL MATE - By this I mean, get married to someone you can learn with and someone with whom you can improve on things.  Get married to someone that belongs to the same or similar school of thought as you. It is not adviceable to get married to a 'Mr know all' or 'Mrs know all'. Do not get married to  someone who is rigid and not open to new ideas, new ways of doing things, or new innovations. Marriage is a great institution. From day one till death do you part, you will keep learning. Marry your 'school' mate - someone who is ready to learn with you, someone who is willing to allow you grow while s/he also works on developing him/herself.

MARRY YOUR SPIRITUAL MATE: Marriage is not just a social union. It is also a spiritual union. Please get married to someone who knows the same God that you know. Do not get married to someone whose believe of God is different from yours. Two can't work together except they be agreed ( Amos 3:3, Joshua 23: 11-15, 2 Corinthians 6:14-18). The spiritual controls the physical, even in marriage. Check for spiritual compatibility in that person you want to get married to. Being with someone  with the same spiritual background as you, makes things easier than you can ever imagine. You really do not want to be with someone that you cannot discuss or study your religious book with or someone that you cannot pray with. This does not mean that there would not be issues, but you can win your battles together and easily by engaging in the same spiritual activity. 

To be continued next week...

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OneLove,

SomzyBrown