SEXUAL COMPATIBILITY- IS THIS A THING?

"Babe I really love and cherish you. You are the best thing that has happened to me and I want to spend the rest of my life with you. Tade said to Mayowa. "I love you too baby and I would love to spend the rest of my life with you but I don't think I can fulfill the condition you talked about" Mayowa responds.. "Babe, if you love me you will do anything to make this work". "I really love you but allowing you check me out to find out if we are sexually compatible isn't something I will do. If you can't get married to me without that then maybe we should go our separate ways..."

I have had numerous discussions with different people and this write-up is from one that I had recently. During this discussion, I was asked a question - "how do I know if I'm sexually compatible with someone before we get married?" I gave an answer which I would share with you all. 

To be honest with you, there is nothing like sexual compatibility before marriage and this is not a question that should pop up especially if you are a child of God. The only way you can discover whether or not you are sexually compatible with someone is by engaging in sexual activities before marriage which is not allowed.

 If you believe that God LED you to be with the guy or lady that you're with, then you should trust that God has sorted out your sexual compatibility with that person. It is not in your place to start trying and checking to see if you are sexually compatible with someone because that would lead you to engaging in fornication which is a sin.

Many guys in trying to justify the need to check out sexual compatibility usually give the example that when you want to buy a car you have to test it to be sure that it is what you really want. Whilst this excuse has been going on for a long time, it talks about a car and not a person so it doesn't fly. A car is a thing, you are a person and you are totally different.

As a Christian, please you do not need to test the waters, you do not need to start trying sex out before marriage. Please wait patiently for when you are married to this person because really how many people will you check sexual compatibility with?

To answer this question, I said NO. My answer remains the same whether you're getting married in 5 days, 2 weeks, 3 months, 1 year, 4 years etc. You cannot know if you are sexually compatible with someone before you get married to them. You'll discover after you've gotten married.

I'm not saying that it is easy. Far from it! I'm only saying that you should have faith and trust that the person you have decided to get married to is sexually compatible. If after you've gotten married, you are not impressed, then work together to satisfy each other. In fact that's supposed to be the fun in marriage. You're expected to keep trying things out with your spouse, discovering yourselves, experimenting, etc.

You're not condemned or judged for making a mistake if you have made one but please do not try checking how compatible you are with a person before you get married. If he or she says its s condition in their family or village, please find your way. It might be hard but there are benefits attached to it. 

I pray that God will help each and everyone of us in Jesus name.  Amen. 

Thanks a lot for stopping by and we hope to see you next week by God's grace.

OneLove,

SomzyBrown.