There are so many discouraging stories out there and there is a likelihood for people to give up on relationship or marriage or to think that they can never have a great experience. Whilst it is true that people have had it tough in marriages and relationships, their experiences are not sufficient and should in actual fact not be sufficient to make one say that one's experience would be the same.
As we saw in the conversation between Ibukun and Shola last week, the fact that Ibukun's mum and her sister had been abused by the men that they got married to and that her own fiance had also abused her does not mean that every man out there is an 'abuser'. As her friend advised, generalising such experiences and saying that all men are like that would do no good. Rather, it would put in so much fear such that when she meets someone (I.e. a man that is a good man and not an abuser) she might not recognise this because of the stereo type.
Although the title of this article points at men, it is the same for women. Some men have had bad experiences with women (though it is something they rarely talk about because of the way they are wired) and as such there is also a tendency for a guy or man to be scared of getting into a relationship or even getting married at all. The same thing applies here, not all women are the same and the fact that you have had it tough with one woman or some women, doesn't mean that you cannot have it good with a woman.
Not all men are the same!
Not all women are the same!
Your experience can be different!
Do not generalise!
Be positive!
Do not give up!
I really use this opportunity to pray for those who have been abused or maltreated by one or many men/women. I pray that your heart gets healed and that you are able to forgive those who have hurt you. I also pray that you will see a reason to trust again and that your next relationship experience (hopefully the last) would be a pleasant one which would counter your previous experience(s).
Thank you so much for stopping by, we hope to see you soon by God's grace.
OneLove,
SomzyBrown.
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