Michelle and David met in Church, they both believe in God and have a relationship with God. They are lovers of God and so this makes it easy, right? But there seems to be an issue - Michelle loves God but she also believes that you can have fun as a Christian. Let's take a quick break - how many of us believe that as Christian couples or Christians in a relationship, we can have fun or that it's okay to have fun? Okay, I see you all and I see those who do not believe that Christians should have fun. In my opinion, fun is good but it depends on the definition of fun. I love to have fun! I love to go out! I love to hang out and guess what? I am a strong Christian, I don't joke with my faith in anyway.
Back to Michelle and David. David on the other hand does not believe in going out, hanging out etc. He believes in spending time with Michelle but that seems to be all. Although David is a good man, Michelle is bored to death. "David is too boring! He makes it really difficult to enjoy the relationship..." she says. She has tried to explain to him that there are certain things that they need to do together apart from reading the bible, attending service together or watching Christian movies in his house.
Michelle because of this serious boredom is considering breaking up with David. David as said earlier is a good guy but he needs to open up. You don't have to go clubbing to have fun, you don't have to do things that are against your faith to have fun and I think this is where many Christians get it wrong. There are different things that one can do to have fun without compromising one's faith.
Going out to see a movie is one - you might say this is expensive but here's a secret, some cinemas have days that movies can be watched at a discount, look out for those days and take her to see a movie. She doesn't need to know how much you spent and even if she knows, you're cutting your coat according to your size. Go out to a restaurant/eatery - it doesn't have to be expensive (if you sincerely cannot afford it) but just going out to eat is romantic to many ladies. Take her shopping but don't forget to clearly state how much she is allowed to spend because at the end of the day, you cannot give what you don't have. Go with her to a salon to a salon to make her hair etc.
Going out to see a movie is one - you might say this is expensive but here's a secret, some cinemas have days that movies can be watched at a discount, look out for those days and take her to see a movie. She doesn't need to know how much you spent and even if she knows, you're cutting your coat according to your size. Go out to a restaurant/eatery - it doesn't have to be expensive (if you sincerely cannot afford it) but just going out to eat is romantic to many ladies. Take her shopping but don't forget to clearly state how much she is allowed to spend because at the end of the day, you cannot give what you don't have. Go with her to a salon to a salon to make her hair etc.
Please being a Christian is not a licence to be boring! Relationships and marriages should be interesting. Let us all find out what interests our partner and try to do these things even if it's once in a while.
Feel free to drop your ideas or suggestions as well. Thank you so much for stopping by and have a blessed week.
OneLove,
SomzyBrown
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