TAKING MALE BAE OUT - NAY OR YAY?

Tare and Blessing had it good for them. They had been friends for about a year when they decided to take it to the next level. Tare loved Blessing because amongst other things she was unique and different from other ladies that he had seen or been in a relationship with. From the moment they got close, he had it in mind to marry her because to him “she is the perfect one”. Their relationship got better and better day after day and this was one admired by everyone around them.

There was something they did together which was so admirable and maybe was one of the things that made Tare love Blessing the more. Unlike some other ladies, Blessing looked for every opportunity to get Tare a gift. She made sure she bought gifts for Tare not just on his birthdays but just to express her love for him.

On one of the days they went out to get food, they had finished eating and as Tare was about to pay for the food, he got informed that someone had paid for it and guess who that person was? He looked at Blessing and could not utter a word. “What manner of lady is this?” He thought to himself. Now she was not doing this because Tare was broke, in actual fact he had some good cash. He was not ‘wealthy’ but he was very comfortable. Blessing just believed that Tare did not have to do it all the time.

One afternoon, Blessing heard Tare and  his friends discussing about how girls are just out there to spend guys’ money and all. During the conversation, Tare boldly told them that not all ladies are like that and that although he was not trying to be proud, his babe (i.e. Blessing) is not that kind of person and as a matter of fact, she looks forward to buying him stuff and she takes him out sometimes. He also pointed out the fact that Blessing does not have so much money but with the little she has, she believes in sharing with him. He mentioned that he tries to stop her sometimes but the fact that she is always willing to, thrills him. Tare’s friends were surprised and one of them shouted “are you being serious? abeg no dey lie give us joor (don’t lie to us). In this generation of ours, no girl would do that.” Tare could not but smile. He went on to tell them that he thought so until he met Blessing.

Blessing on the other hand in a quest to know if her actions were a ‘taboo‘, decided to ask her friends about it. She had not finished asking the question when they all told her to stop. “Why should you spend your money on a guy when he should be the one spending on you”. She tried to explain the fact that guys shouldn’t always do it alone but her friends were not ready to listen to her. According to them, she was talking trash.

My question now is: apart from birthdays and maybe anniversaries for those that are married, is it wrong to buy things for your spouse? Is it wrong to decide to pay for his food on some occasions?

I think many ladies enjoy being on the receiving end and we have gotten so used to this that we think it is the norm. As ladies, we need to get out of the habit of always wanting the guy or husband to do everything and everytime because it does not have to be so. Yes, the guys/men will not request for it because society says that they are in charge but this is something that should be done out of love. It does not have to be forced, it should come from within. From the conversation between Tare and his friends, this act by ladies is one that would be admired and appreciated by men.

Blessing is a lady, Blessing believes in sharing, Blessing does not let Tare spend money on her all the time, Blessing spends money on Tare and takes him out sometimes. Let us be like Blessing..

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SomzyBrown