WHY MEN DON'T LIKE TO SAY IT FIRST 2

"Ope, what exactly is happening to and with us? Why do you all of a sudden choose to treat me like I mean nothing to you?" 

"I am not treating you anyhow Temiloluwa. You mean so much to me and you remain my priority" he responded.

 This looked like a joke to Ope and Temi was not ready for all that. "Ope, you do not seem to understand or care about what I am saying. You have changed your attitude towards me and I do not understand why?" "How do you mean, Temi? I have not changed towards you and I do not know what you are talking about."

Temi was shocked that the caring Ope she knew no longer cared about how she felt. She could not fathom his behavioural change. How g ould someone who claimed to love her and who had promised to get married to her all of a sudden change his mind. Well he had not outrightly said that he was not interested in her anymore but his action spoke volumes. Temiloluwa tried to ponder on what she could have done to him but nothing was coming to her mind. To the best of her knowledge, she had treated him right in every way. She thought about it deeply and she could not think of anything else but the suspicion that Ope had found someone else. 

She was not entirely sure about this but she just believed that that could be the only reason Ope would treat her the way he did. He gradually stopped calling her and whenever she called him, he either promised to call her back and never did or refused to pick up. This went on for months and Temi had began to get extremely frustrated. She tried to speak about it to someone but she was so ashamed of herself. She had closed the door on all her friends because of Opeyemi. Who was going to listen to her without mocking her? Who would console her? 

Temiloluwa decided to have another chat with Ope and this time around, she was ready to really express herself. "Ope, I understand that people fall out of love and lose interest in who they once claimed to love. While this would really hurt if it's true, I'ld rather you let me know than  for you to keep treating me like I am non-existent in your life. It is okay to say that you are no longer interested in this relationship. You don't have to keep me in it if you are out of it already." She said all of these but the only thing Ope could say was "Okay, I've heard you." 

This statement hurt Temi so much. Had she done that badly, why would her own Ope choose to treat her like trash. The change was drastic, unexpected and unexplainable. Ope had told everyone of his intent to get married to her and now he was beginning to gradually walk uuaway without an explanation. Days went into weeks and weeks into months and Ope had still refused to see, talk or chat with Temi. 

It was very obvious that Ope did not want the relationship anymore but Temi was in denial. "Maybe he is going through something that is making him behave this way. Maybe he just needs me to be understanding and patient with him. Maybe..., Maybe...." As a result of all the maybessss, Temi decided to have a last physical discussion with Ope. She had promised herself that it would be the last one. But was it???

To be continued...

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