ISSUES ARE BOUND TO HAPPEN IN RELATIONSHIPS BUT...2

Another thing that leads to unresolvable issues is the fact that many times we think we have a right to demand certain things or behaviours from our spouse based on what we consider to be right. We fail to understand that people are different and act in different ways because we all have different personalities. It is a known fact that no two people (no matter how similar they seem) are the same. You hear people say "you act so much like Dorcas but the only difference is that while Dorcas is hot tempered, you are not..." 

No matter how close in behaviour or character you are to your spouse, there will be some differences that you must be willing to accommodate if you want the marriage or relationship to last long.

We all need to be mature about the way we handle other people especially our spouses. We should treat them with respect and this still boils down to understanding that they are different from you and you need to be tolerant with them.

No matter how similar people are, there's always one difference or the other between them. 

In relationships, many people fight, quarell and keep malice because they fail to understand that their spouse is way different from them. They expect their spouses to act in the exact way and manner that they would act if they were in their shoes. This however cannot be the case, you need to accept in your heart that your spouse is not the same person you are and that you cannot force him or her to be who they are not.

The willingness to accept people the way they are and not to try to change them, is a sign of maturity. As earlier said, this is not to say that you should sweep things under the carpet just because you are trying to be understanding. Talk things over but if there are unimportant things that you shouldn't waste your time fighting over, please move on and do not be in a hurry to judge your spouse.

She is different from you and can never be like you. He is not you and will never be like you. 

Respect each other for who you are, work on areas that you know affects your spouse and people around you. Be tolerant, be accommodating, see every issue or problem as a step to becoming closer to your spouse and not an opportunity to tear each other down. 

Another thing that can be done is to focus on the strengths of your spouse as opposed to his or her weakness. No matter how different a person is from you there are some good traits that he or she has that should be appreciated. 

Although you cannot change anyone, people depending on the phase of life that they are in, go through series of changes. Be willing to accept that people change, so the fact that your wife was this way or is this way now does not mean she would be that way in 2 years time. Please be willing to walk with your spouse through whatever change or phase they are going through.

Thank you so much for stopping by, we hope to see you next week.

OneLove,

SomzyBrown