IT DOES NOT COST MUCH TO BE FAITHFUL!

When people go into relationships, some already have the mentality that they cannot be in a relationship with just one person and as a result of this, they begin to look outside even before the relationship is 1 month old. By 'outside',  I mean that they begin to try to see if they can find a new girlfriend or boyfriend because they already feel that they cannot cope or for other reasons best known to them. While some may break the heart of their partner by breaking up, others may decide to double or triple date which is equally not right.

The truth is that everyone has the tendency to want something better or to try something new but not everyone will carry this out. It is a decision on your part to be satisfied and content with who you are in a relationship with or to look outside for someone better. Although it is adviceable to remain faithful in your relationship and with your partner, the choice is for you to make. Double or triple dating is not good for anyone and so we all need to learn to discipline ourselves; to exercise self control and to be content.

You asked that lady out for a reason and you said yes to him for a reason. As a lady, if you knew you did not want to be with him, you could just have told him that you were not interested. You really did not have to say yes! As a man, if you knew that you really did not want to be in a relationship with her, why did you bother speaking to her about it? If you have asked her out and if you have said yes, you owe your partner every level of faithfulness.

The decision to be faithful in your relationship begins with you. You need to make up your mind not to allow ‘unfaithfulness’ be an option for you. Your relationship is not like a football field where players are changed based on a slight mistake or weakness. Relationship is some hardwork and you need to be ready to work hard at it. There will be issues (no doubt) but the willingness to settle such issues should not be lacking. If two people go into a relationship with the mind set that they would be faithful to each other, they would work at it no matter what comes their way.

Relationship is a sacrifice and even though some people do not take it serious, it is a highly serious matter. The person you are in a relationship with, will have some flaws and you also have some flaws as no one is perfect. You need to make the decision to either help work on these flaws with your partner because you are in it together or you give him/her time to get better at such. 

If you cannot be faithful in a relationship, would this attitude jump at you in marriage? If you cannot exercise self control and be content with one man or one woman now, how will this be a possibility when you are married? Some people say "It will be different when I am married. I can play around now but I will be faithful when I am married" how can this be? Practice they say, makes perfect. What this means is that whatever you practise now will be perfected in marriage except you change. Remember change is gradual, it would not just jump at you.

The fact that a person has flaws is not  enough reason to make you leave that person. I am not and no one will ask you to remain in a relationship with someone that molests you or someone that is violent and so where this is the case, I will not advice you to continue with the relationship in the name of being faithful. 

Everyone can be faithful if we all make the decision to be. Let us work on ourselves and make the decision to be faithful in our relationships and I pray that God will give us this grace in Jesus name.

Thank you so much for stopping by, we hope to see you next week.

OneLove,

Somzybrown