HOW LONG DOES IT TAKE TO HEAL?

This question is one that is asked by so many people. While some are of the opinion that one should take a long time after a breakup before getting into another relationship because of how delicate the heart is, some others think that a person doesn't have to wait for too long because they can heal quickly.

What do you think? Please you can drop your comments in the comment box below.

People breakup their relationships or go through a breakup due to different explainable/unexplainable reasons known to them. Some of these reasons are: cheating, lack of proper communication; incompatibility etc. I personally believe that there are certain issues that occur in a relationship that shouldn't necessarily lead to a breakup but then people have to make these choices themselves.

After going through a breakup based on one or more of the reasons listed above, some people get into a very defensive mode where they guard their hearts from any other form of hurt. It is very okay to guard your heart but you need to determine what you are guarding it against and how long this should be for. Some people even decide they will never get into another relationship because of how terrible they felt after a breakup. While this is totally understandable, I do not think it is sufficient to make you lose out on the amazing guys or ladies that are out there. But how will you know this if you keep hiding and shying away from moving on? 

Back to the question...Healing process for people differs and you'll need to ensure that you have healed from the hurt (i.e. you've come to terms with and accepted the break-up) before getting into a relationship. This calls for you to do all that you can to heal very fast because no one (no matter how cute, sweet and loving) is worth crying over for months, years...

In fact, my Pastor once said that there's nothing wrong in being served breakfast today and getting into another relationship in 3 days time. I mean you have to heal so that you're not carrying the baggage and hurt from the last relationship into the new one. But he said this to say that you shouldn't mourn for too long after a breakup. 

So please, you do not need to mourn for too long as long as you have healed. Go out with friends and engage in fun activities that'll help you heal.

I really hope this helps someone. You need to heal and you need to heal fast. You also need to be willing to meet other people cos you just never know. 

Thank you so much for stopping by. Happy new month my wonderful people.

OneLove,

SomzyBrown