We had a short (2) series on open relationships and some people sent messages to me expressing their negative views on open relationships. Ifeanyi did the same as we can see here and here for those who missed the last two write-ups.
The thought and implication behind open relationships is actually not advisable for anyone at all. Like someone said "Why will I be in a relationship and be hoping for another relationship?". This is so profound as to what an open relationship implies. You're currently in a relationship but because you do not know whether or not the person you're in that relationship with is seeing someone else or considering someone else, vice versa - you have to also hope for a better person.
I'm not sure how people do this but it's not healthy. Open relationships should be frowned upon for the following reasons:
1. It breaks commitment - It makes it okay for people to double date or double relate (lol just thought about this one) which in itself is extremely wrong. You need to be in a relationship with one person and it should be exclusive. If you can't handle the commitment to one person that a relationship requires, then don't get into one or break up from the one you're in. Also if you can't stay committed to a relationship, what would occur when you get married?Check this!
2. Trust is non-existent: You can't tell me that you trust someone you're in an open relationship with. The person is permitted to consider and be in a relationship with another person/people while with you and so you'll have to keep thinking and over-thinking and this doesn't make sense. In fact, the person can even get married while still open-relationship zoning you. You don't want to spend all the time you're with this person thinking of whether or not he/she has now found another person they like. It's not worth it please!
Quite frankly, you can tell that I am against open relationships as it is very very unnecessary in my opinion. Please don't offer this to anyone and do not accept it from anyone. Anyone who suggests this doesn't love you and in the first place is very selfish. Why can't they stay committed to you? Why must they keep checking for other options and then dump you?
This is applicable to both male and female and not just one gender. Neither a female nor male should suggest open relationships. It is highly disrespectful and unnecessary. If you can't continue with a relationship anymore and for whatever reason, please politely break up. Don't deceive the next person or yourself!
Thanks for stopping by. See you next week by God's grace.
OneLove,
SomzyBrown
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