HOW CAN I LOVE HIM BETTER?

Bimpe: Sayo what's up with you? How is everything going? It's been a while o.

Sayo: Babe, I just dey like 'Dele' o. Everything is okay, we thank God. What's up with you?

Bimpe: I am good too darling. How far with that your fine bobo na? Hope you guys are still cool.

Sayo: My sister, e be things o! There's no bobo again joor. The guy broke up with me...

Bimpe: Oh whao! I'm so sorry to hear that. But why though? You both seemed really cool.

Sayo: To be honest, I still don't understand. I loved this guy with my heart and made up my mind to be the best I could which I actually did but he kept complaining that he wasn't feeling loved. There's nothing I did not do for this guy. Despite my busy schedule, I'll visit him weekly, help clean his house, cook for him etc. But what can I say? He said my love wasn't enough...

Bimpe: Whao! But wait o, why would you even clean and cook when you guys are not married. Anyway that's not the issue. I guess he would have preferred you to show love to him in another way. Did you ask him what he really wanted? It is well. Don't worry, the right guy would show up soon.

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Are you currently having issues in your relationship or marriage? Or have you had issues in the past that you just couldn't get your head around? It is possible that you have been feeding your spouse with the wrong food or speaking the wrong love language to him or her. I listened to a couple recently and I liked what one of them said about love languages. She said "If you're speaking french to someone who only understands German, there will be issues". Many of the issues that we undergo in our relationships could be as a result of failing to speak the language that our spouse understands. 

There are 5 love languages in the book FIVE LOVE LANGUAGES by Gary Chapman - Words of Affirmation; Quality Time; Acts of Service; Physical Touch; Gifts. We'll take these languages one after the other and I really hope that it is useful to some of us. 

SomzyBrown loves to see relationships and marriages work and that's why she shares content in this regard. Having said that, SomzyBrown would like to plead with you to discover the love language(s) - (it could be more than one) and speak this language to your spouse. You can also ask your spouse how he or she would want to be loved. Don't assume that buying gifts or helping out with the chores or touching sensitive parts of his/her body is what would make him/her feel loved. In this journey, YOU CANNOT AFFORD TO ASSUME.

There's a quiz that I'll encourage you to take part in, the this would help you discover your love language and possibly that of your spouse:Click here:  

Thank you so much for stopping by, see you next week by God's grace.

OneLove,

SomzyBrown.