Every kind of relationship requires that we put in efforts to make it work. Relationships with friends require a lot of sacrifice. Relationship with God requires a lot of sacrifice. Relationship with your spouse requires a lot of sacrifice as well as patience and some other virtues that we know about. Is it easy? I must confess - it is very difficult but it is workable.
Someone (elderly) recently said that it is sad that now adays many people are not willing to make sacrifices or exercise patience with their spouses and this should not be. The willingness to make sacrifices and make things work is highly important and we all must be ready to do this.
Siblings quarrel because they are different and although some of them have the same background and upbringing, they still fight against each other. Now you're in a relationship with someone who you were not even brought up with and you expect that you will agree on everything? Let me shock you- it is IMPOSSIBLE!
No matter how close you are to your spouse, there will be issues. What matters is your maturity at handling it. I am an advocate of being in a relationship with or getting married to someone of like-mind and like-passion but no matter how similar you are, there will still be issues.
No matter how close you are to your spouse, there will be issues. What matters is your maturity at handling it. I am an advocate of being in a relationship with or getting married to someone of like-mind and like-passion but no matter how similar you are, there will still be issues.
The first thing I would advice each of us to do is to understand first and foremost that there is a difference between a man and woman and a lot of difference in the way they think and analyse issues. Taking the step to understand this doesn't mean that there won't be issues but at least you have taken a good step in ensuring that you do not always misinterpret his/her action and words.
Men and women think differently. Most times a man means what he says but many times, a woman doesn't mean what she says. For example, a woman can say "I am tired of this relationship and I just want it to be over already. He doesn't care and he doesn't have my time..." The truth is that she is tired because he doesn't care and so if he changes by becoming more caring and spending more time with her, she would be happy. She doesn't necessarily want the relationship to be over.
Men and women think differently. Most times a man means what he says but many times, a woman doesn't mean what she says. For example, a woman can say "I am tired of this relationship and I just want it to be over already. He doesn't care and he doesn't have my time..." The truth is that she is tired because he doesn't care and so if he changes by becoming more caring and spending more time with her, she would be happy. She doesn't necessarily want the relationship to be over.
A man is most times rational while women are most times emotional. Women say things depending on how they feel at the moment but men think things through and go through a lot of process before they say things.
Learning to understand each other is key! Making sacrifices for each other is important! Don't give up so easily or quickly so that you do not make the same mistake in the next one you run to.
Thanks a lot for stopping by and we look forward to seeing you next week by God's grace. God bless you.
OneLove,
SomzyBrown
Learning to understand each other is key! Making sacrifices for each other is important! Don't give up so easily or quickly so that you do not make the same mistake in the next one you run to.
Thanks a lot for stopping by and we look forward to seeing you next week by God's grace. God bless you.
OneLove,
SomzyBrown
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