WE TOOK SO MANY THINGS FOR GRANTED.

Olumide and Shola decided that they were going to get married after being in a relationship for six (6) years. Too long right? Well, this is a topic for another day. Thankfully their parents were in support of their marriage and there was no issue at all. They were both from wealthy families and so funds for the wedding was not an issue. They got married and their wedding was the talk of town. However, in a recent discussion with Olumide, he mentioned that they were so concerned with the wedding going well that they did not prepare well for the marriage life itself. 

According to Olumide, "this is a mistake that many people make these days. They take the preparation for marriage for granted and focus majorly on the wedding, failing to recognize that the wedding is for just one (1) day while marriage takes a long time and infact is for a life time."

Going into more details, Olumide said "We got into marriage and the first few months were like hell." "I mean I wasn't expecting it to be all rosy but I wished I had senior friends or mentors or people who could have told me what to expect in marriage. I was at the verge of calling it quit when I realised that all we needed to do was understand each other. Don't even ask me about our spiritual life. It was nothing to write home about and this is another thing that we took for granted. We both felt we had walked with God so well and we failed to involve Him in our marriage." He continued. 

"We eventually had to attend a counselling session if we wanted the marriage to work and that was when we realised that it was the little things that threatened the success of our marriage. We realised how we were so engrossed in wedding preparation that zero attention was given to marriage preparation. The fact that we had put God on the side because we felt it was our thing and we could handle it ourselves was also another thing that we had taken for granted." He said regrettably.

"Our marriage is a lot better now and there is a lot more connection and understanding between Shola and I. We are not there yet but we are a work in progress and we have indeed made significant progress in our lives and marriage."

I'm sharing this to encourage people in the process of getting married or planning to get married someday. It's okay to have a fantastic wedding but don't do this at the expense or detriment of your marriage. Delegate as much as you can when it comes to wedding preparation but marriage preparation requires a lot and requires you and your partner putting in the work. Do your research well; have mentors that you both can talk to; involve God; be tolerant and understanding etc.

I hope you have learnt a thing or two today. Thank you so much for stopping by. God bless you. Have a blessed week.

OneLove,

SomzyBrown.